The Joy of Saying No: Stop people pleasing, reclaim boundaries, and say yes to the life you want

Are you still playing a role you learned in childhood to please others, such as the Good Girl/Guy, the Overachiever, or the Helper? Do you save the word no for emergency situations only? Are you always putting others’ needs above yours even at the expense of your mental and physical health? Are you unable to deliver a guilt-free no even when you desperately want to establish a healthy boundary? If so, you are not alone. The Joy of Saying No is your ticket out of toxic patterns and into healthy relationships and experiences that foster more love, care, trust and respect.

People pleasing—putting others ahead of ourselves to avoid something negative or to get something we want or need—runs rampant in our society. Saying yes when we need, want to or should say no leaves us stuck in frustrating and destructive patterns. And when we don’t say yes authentically, we say it resentfully, which leads to more problems than if we’d said no in the first place.

The Joy of Saying No will help you identify your people-pleasing style and habits. A six-step framework then teaches you how to discover the healing and transformative power of no to:

  • establish healthier boundaries,
  • foster more intimate relationships and fulfilling experiences, and
  • reconnect with your values and authentic self.

Only by learning to say no – and sticking to it – can you lead a more fulfilling, joyful life.




Foreign language editions, including German, Brazillian and Dutch, will publish in 2023. I will update when these are available. 


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Natalie Lue - Author of The Joy Of Saying No

Hi, I’m Natalie, author, writer, podcaster and artist helping people eliminate emotional baggage from their lives, to create better relationships, self-esteem and work. 

The Joy of Saying No is the culmination of my seventeen-year journey as a recovering people pleaser. I started off with zero clue about boundaries and triggered by just the idea of saying no! I share everything I’ve learned in this book, including how to say no without terrifying yourself or cutting everyone off.

Time and again, I’ve found that saying no and figuring out what I need to say no to paves the way to something so much better.

This includes being emotionally available, healing from past experiences and trauma so that they stop having a stranglehold on your life, enjoying loving relationships, not putting up with shady malarkey, and living life as a happier, peaceful, more authentic you.


Natalie Lue media appearances, including The New York Times and BBC logos
Natalie Lue media appearances, including The New York Times and BBC logos